I want to this bar alone to get some breather from my family on this Monday night, and it seemed like a nice classy bar with nice music. So I was sitting alone drinking a beer and being ignored by women like I always am, and in front of me was this mirror I could see things going on behnid me. So after awhile here comes in this group of guys about 3-4 where one of them seems quite durnk and talking about fighting all the time. Like he wanted to fight someone or something and it didnt happen and asked one of them at one point if hed have his back. Anyway after ahwile I thought I saw him almost tyr to punch me but his friend grabbed his hand, and over and over after that he kept throwing these shadow boxing type el;bows at me while I was turned around away form him and could see it in the mirror. I totally lost alls elf dignity and respect I had and got punked cause instead of turning around and starting to hit him with all my might I simply got up (probably because of fear and multiple people facing me possibly) and walked right by him while rubbing myself against him to what at that time I thought would show him something and went to the abthroom and sat on the other side of the bar. I should have came in there with my knife and simply hit him and if his friends went at me pulled it out or stabbed them. I feel so freaking weak and stupid right now. He totally disrespected me right in front of me and his friends and possibly others in the bar like I was nothing.

the thing is people like that usually use me as a target when they pick targets or look for ppl to take their anger out on cause i was alone and sitting in the middle of a stool away from two groups (there was another guy by himself next to me but he was seated closer to the edge than middle). And also cause I am young and have gentle eyes, people like that look for the person who they think would least likely respond or fight them I think. Stuff like that has been happening most of my life. I am also more aware and have more awarness around my surroundings than other ppl so I notice it.

I think you need to find a chilled-out old guy to chat with.

youre gonna end up like that girl who killed her mom with a hammer, locked up, especially if you stab some one.
if you cant blend in at a bar, stay out of bars dimwit.

what dignity do you have? all you do is post retarded stories about how you get beat up because you're trying to act hard, when you are not.

learn your place buddy boy, or you may find yourself somewhere you dont want to be.

not threatening you or anything,just trying to help you. dumbass.

I wasnt trying to act hard, he was. He was loud, obnoxious and kept threatening.

before or after you "rubbed yourself against him to show him something"?

I rubbed myself against him as I walked by cause he was in my way and I sure as heck wasnt going to be polite to him and say excuse me or go another way.

He likely noticed you looking at him in the mirror, he was drunk, and started acting like an ass.

Let it go, who cares about the guy, or any other guy for that matter.

It really doesn't matter if you're weak or strong, or tough or wimpy. It really only matters what you think about yourself. And right now, it doesn't sound like you think much of yourself.

Well what would you have done in that situation to come out not weak and at the same time not humiliated and beat up?

"who cares about the guy, or any other guy for that matter."

I care what females think. And all of them either always ignore me when I go out or tell me not to tlak to them jsut for simply saying hi accuse me of hitting on them and stuff. I can never egt a girlfriend ever or even one night stands.

"females" can smell self assurance at a thousand paces.

That guy could have beat you up, then all his buddies piss on your bleeding body. But as long as you were self confident some chick(s) there would have said, "that guy who got beat up was kind of hot".

Only you can humiliate yourself, if something doesn't bother you, it can't humiliate you.

When you stop caring about what other people think about you, you'll be happier, more confident and therfore more attractive.

Don't be a jerk, don't let your state of mind be affected by jerks- and you'll no longer look like (or feel like) a bitch.

Its interesting if you only expect and look for mistreatment, that's all you'll find.

Based on every post I've read by you (which I think are probably your idea of a joke) you remind me of a guy who travels around carrying a suitcase full of dung and can never understand why every place he goes smells like crap.

Best of luck,
Shane

well i have to admit. life is craz?. and women? even crazier... you should always keep it positive. the things in life do?t come easy. if u aint born with it. you have to earn it. same goes with courting a gfemaleh no self respecting girl is going to be so easy to get with. it takes days of letting the girl talk about herself.

sometimes it takes time to find the right person; and sometimes one has to look in the right places

Listen to the Nerd Partol if you want too, but deep down inside women are drawn to the biggest, toughest, meanest man in the room. (And by deep down inside, I mean their baginas)

And understand that women are not turned on by two guys rubbing against each other in a bar. Just ask Mrs
Adam Smith.

Bob#2

i think bob 2 is having too much fun unraveling our efforts.

yesturday I thought some guy was being nice and commented to me something like "nice pants" or "nice shirt" or something and I replied thjanks, than a couple seconds later as he walked passt me he started laighing to his buddy in a devilish way like he tried tog et me to say thanks or something and was really making fun of me.

anyway in the first instance in the bar what would u guys have done? would u have ignored it or walked to another spot in the bar like I did or have fought or confronted the guy or told the abr tender or what?

I would have ignored it. I only let things rile me when someone weak is really in jeapordy.

In a case like that with a jerk pretend swinging at the back of my head, I would have left the bar after finishing my drink. (Sometimes you have to recognize you picked the wrong place for a breather.)

With the guy saying 'nice pants' then laughing- its happened to me lots of times. I don't let it bother me.

Here's a question for you, Enforcer:
If one man offers another man a gift, but the second man refuses to accept the gift, who, then, owns the gift?

Bob#2 is right. Why take someone like Enforcer seriously. To do so only feeds the fires of his insecurities. Deep down everyone knows what actions are the correct ones to take. Even children. A child may fall & he may cry briefly but eventually picks himself up and play again. Providing he didn't hit his head too hard....